Black and White-As you say it!

I don’t understand why people crib so much specially the so called “whites”. If you move out from your comfort zone, you will sure experience a change. The change can be a good one or a not-so-good one, but then you chose it. So you have to go through it. A white man coming down to India will experience lot of things different, you-have-never-seen in your country. So why the crib, as how things here are this way and not that way. Obviously they cannot be same as that in your “Time zone”. If you find same conditions prevailing here like those in your country, then why the hell would you travel to this side of the globe? The beauty is to accept the things the way they are and try to collect new experience from everywhere. Don’t be a cry baby all the time. If a cycle is called a cycle here and not bike, then you call it a bike and not  a cycle. Why is it so hard to understand? 

Rahiman dhaga prem ka..

rahiman dhaga prem ka 

matt todo chhitkay

toote se phir na jure

jure ganth padh jaaye…

Quiet meaningful lines. Relationships are wonderful. Some relationships are for short time and some permanent. Some which are never meant to be yet we desire them. Some we have with us, but no longer interested in. Usually the one we have with our family is the strongest. One that is for life time. But in this world and changing time, is there anything which remains permanent. Is the relation you are having with every member of your family remains the same? Obviously your answer would be yes. But the sad truth is..no. Every relation gets the drift. The old bonds weaken the new forms. When you were young, your family meant everything to you. Your mother and father was world to you. You could die for your siblings. But then you grow, you add people in your life. Some of them become dear to you. Your closeness with them becomes more than with your family. It does not mean you start hating your family but you start caring for others more. You make new bonds with them and your life gets a new turn. And this cycle goes on. So, what is it? Is it meant to go like this? Is this how life is lived? Is it just changing your priorities with changing time?

Why are you living? To have a good career, good money, big house, big car and a happy family? You will die one day like everyone else. Why do we come then if we were meant to die one day? Is there something I am missing out?

Few things to accept and adapt:

1. This place i.e Kharagpur sucks in summers. I mean the Humidity is worst. But you have to accept it and not crib.
2. People are bitchy. They will bitch about you no matter how good you are. So the funda is to just ignore.
3. Now, how can you ignore: The only method to do this: Action speak louder than words. So you have to shut your mouth and keep doing the work.
4. WORK: Yes, this is the only and only solution for everything. Keep working daily. 
5. There is no room for anger. You have to smile in every situation. Have Patience.

O O PhD

Oh my God PhD! hehe..

I never knew, simply not at all what will a PhD be..but I am so glad I am getting to know it.

Life's been so hectic, so complicated, so problematic sometimes but I feel this is teaching me so many things. I had always cribbed about being immature, irresponsible..but I am getting to learn everything, more specifically I am getting to know myself. And the more I know, the better I feel. Seriously. I have had worst experiences, past week was so stressful.

I never knew what stress was, I swear, but now I know. Its not a thing to boast of but yeah, this is how it is. It feels better to overcome it. The past week was horrible, I spent literally sleepless nights but somewhere I had a hope, because I was right. I am so thankful, I have few beautiful, amazing people that really care about me. I could not tell this at home because my family lives miles away from me and I know they will worry about me. I don't know but I just don't want them to worry about me because I knew I would handle it. I just want to make them happy. Otherwise I am very strong, but whenever it comes about my family, I become so emotional. 

Patience is very important. You have to stride on the right path and all good things will happen to you automatically.

Jugaad

Since I am watching "Mahabharat" these days and all it talks is about doing "Dharam", I too plan to walk on this path. I am a miniature, would hardly, hardly make any difference but still there's no harm choosing this path because it indeed is only Karma and Dharam, which gives meaning to everything. Now, you may ask what is this Dharam and why much emphasis is being given to this in the entire Mahabharat and afterwards. I feel, Dharam is rising above one's own self, you can say it is much more formalistic approach of being under rules and regulations. It tells you in a way the difference between good and evil. But is it easy to follow this path? It was not easy for the great Pandavs so how would it be for as insignificant human beings like me. When the life runs on Jugaad, meaning getting your work done by hook-or-crook because you are in a competitive world, when a slightest delay will leave substantial mark on you, you can not sometimes afford to be on the right path.But, I am sure we all can wait, I too want to wait for my "Coal".

Lets see..

Bournvit-ed!

Few things I have observed in the previous week that deserve worth mentioning are:

1. Bournvita Milk

Since I am a die hard Milk lover, I have devised certain ways as to how to make my favorite drink even more delicious. One way is to supplement it with the chocolate Bournvita. Umm....Thanks to Cadbury's! Just milk with B'vita isn't enough, how I do it let me explain. So, I start with boiling milk. Boil it to have it giving out big ripples and froth. This way the water in it is evaporated and the milk becomes even more viscous. You know your milk is boiled but you dont have to remove it from the burner. Keep the vessel lying over there after covering it with a lid. This is to ensure that the milk boils in low flame or just with the heat for some time for a bit longer time. This way you get a thick layer of cream on it, so much thick that you can literally chew it. Umm..that is the best form of consuming milk. Now take the milk in a glass and add 1 and half spoon of B'vita and sugar as much as you like it. Stir it properly. You see its color is chocolate brown and looks delicious. Sip it, lick it and feel it! :D

2.  Powdered Milk

One fine afternoon, when it started to crave for something sweet, I looked everywhere in my room to find something sweet. Unfortunately, I couldn't find anything great. There my gaze went on the shelf where I had kept dried Milk powder to make tea. I immediately opened the lid of the vessel and put one spoon of the condensed milk  in my mouth. Ummmm...believe you me, that is the best thing. Thanks to AMul and Nestle! Immediately my eyes were close. I experienced a state of utopia. I didn't want anything else in my life that time. From one spoon it started and kept going on and on. When I was done I saw the box was empty.

Worth a try!

Self-Motivation: The Key

What I immediately need to do it is  re-orient myself. Focus is very important. It keeps going and coming. In a set of environments like this, where you live far far away from home in a company of different people, the key factor which needs to be kept alive is Self-motivation. I remember how I used to think differently when Sir(my Guide) used to say this in the beginning about Self-motivation. I used to perceive it as a motivational speech or dialogue that every Professor gives to his students. But, now I realize what he meant when he told all that. A midst all circumstances, good, not-so-good, the question is how to alwayd keep the fire burning. How to always keep yourself motivated? Certainly one time or other you will get dull for xyz reason and then all you do is stop doing things. It is like you enter a lag phase where all you do is save your energy and try to cope up with the adverse conditions outside. I dont want this lag phase for myself. Is it too difficult to achieve? What is the funda..the master cocktail?